A common variation on the question, “Are they natural”, when people find out you’re having or have twins is, “Which side of the family do they run on?”
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A few years ago, I subbed in a bowling league where one of my teammates turned out to be a father of young triplets. When I found out, my reflexive curiosity led me to ask some version of the question, “Were they natural?” I may have tried to phrase it a little less bluntly, but the question was the same. My very friendly teammate answered politely and directly (no, they had “help”), and my curiosity was satisfied without realizing at the time what a personal or awkward question I had just asked. Now that I’m a father of twins and encounter the same question or variations on it frequently, I cringe that I ever asked it, and wish I could go back and apologize to that guy.
How can two tiny little people who sleep 20+ hours per day require 20+ hours of their parents being awake to take care of them? I think I may have to give a gentle slap upside the head to the next person who helpfully suggests, “Sleep when the baby(ies) sleeps.” Right. As if there’s nothing else that has to happen at some point, like: cleaning bottles, doing baby laundry, preparing forumula, breast pumping (for mommy), organizing various baby supplies and accessories all over the place, shopping, feeding ourselves, showering (optional), doing our own laundry, housekeeping, maintaining the yard, tending to the dogs, connecting with family and friends so we don’t become recluses, nurturing our marriage, writing, paying bills, selling dope to pay for– I’ve said too much. So, when somone comes up with a way to do all those things while sleeping, I’d be more than happy to sleep when my babies sleep.
Brooke spent the last few days trying to master finishing a bottle at every feeding under the time limit (30 minutes), and what finally seemed to do the trick was spacing her feedings out a little more (every four hours instead of every three) and compensating for the decreased frequency with increased volume. She improved with that schedule enough to be ready for a car seat test last night, which she passed, so… Brooke is coming home today! Yaaay, Brookie Brooke!
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Claire made such good progress with her nippling over the last week that we heard talk from the NICU nurses that she might be ready to go home by Monday (yesterday), but we still weren’t expecting it. We weren’t in complete denial, but we’d thought there’d be at least a couple days’ notice, and since we still hadn’t been asked by Sunday to bring in a car seat for her car seat test, or told she had officially started her prerequisite two consecutive days of nippling every feeding, Monday seemed like a longshot. So, when we arrived Sunday afternoon, we were caught off guard when our neonatologist told us he had been leaving us a voicemail as we walked in, telling us to bring a car seat because Claire was ready to go home the next day as long as she gained weight that night and passed her care seat test. She did both. Read the rest of this entry »
Claire is coming home today!
Dear Mommy Wife,
I considered getting you a card, but it just wasn’t the same without you there to help pick one out that you liked so we could laugh or say “Aww” together and put it back.
Kat’s surgery to have her gall bladder removed went well, but for reasons that still aren’t entirely clear, her doc decided to admit her for a couple of nights. We know her gall bladder was in bad shape – inflamed, but not infected – and she had a drainage tube and substantial post-op pain, so neither of us were bothered by the change in plans, but we’re still a little perplexed why he would have expected to do it as outpatient surgery in the first place. She was only a month removed from having a c-section, which to my layman’s judgment seems like something that could be expected to make her recovery a little rougher than usual. Like I said, though, we didn’t mind the stay. They were able to grant our request to have her admitted to women’s recovery wing just down the hall from the NICU, so she was close to the babies and being cared for by a bunch of nurses we already liked. With the pain level immediately following the surgery, Kate was in no hurry to get home and negotiate the stairs. Financially, it’s already a given that we’ll meet our annual out-of-pocket maximum for the year, so what’s another day or two in the hospital? Read the rest of this entry »
Brooke and Claire must have overheard conversations about Brooke possibly being read to go home first, because they seem to be conspiring to get more in synch so they can go home together. After a few days of finishing off her bottles under the time limit, Brooke has had a hard time staying awake to complete her feedings. Meanwhile, Claire caught up to her sister’s pace of taking every third feeding by bottle, and has done so well she might advance to nippling every other feeding before Brooke. Claire has also been the more feisty one lately, so we think Brooke may be feeling the anemia a little more than her sister. They’re still on epogen for the anemia, and we expect tomorrow’s labs to show us whether it’s working or if one or both might need a transfusion.
Mommy is having a cholecystectomy today, meaning her gall bladder will be removed. This is something we’ve been expecting for a while now, since she was first diagnosed with severe gall stones in her first trimester. Had she not been pregnant, they would have scheduled her for surgery ASAP. At the time of the diagnosis, when she was having discomfort but not severe pain, the ultrasound tech who scanned her gall bladder said it was in pretty bad shape and he was surprised she wasn’t in more pain; normally, if he saw gall stones that bad, he’d be scanning someone who came into the emergency room in severe pain. Surgeons and obstetricians prefer to avoid surgery during pregnancy unless absolutely necessary, so Kat was advised to adhere to a low-fat diet (fats aggravate gall bladder problems) and try to put off surgery until after the pregnancy. Read the rest of this entry »
